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From the President’s Desk


Dear Friends,

Looking back at 2011 for ENOCH and the homeschoolers of New Jersey it was an eventful year.  God has been gracious to us. Thank you for all your prayers and encouraging words. As we start off 2012, please continue to pray for the ENOCH Board, the convention, which is only 5 months away, and the homeschoolers of New Jersey.

Happy New Year!

Rich Millward

Encouraging Words For Homeschoolers Across The Nation


Part One of a Three-Part Series
by Nancy Manos

In chatting with some homeschool moms several years ago, the question came up, “How do you motivate your kids to do their schoolwork?”

One woman shared frustration over constantly battling with her son. She would send him to his room everyday to do his schoolwork, and when she checked on him later she would find that he had hardly accomplished anything at all.  Some of the other ladies expressed having similar experiences in their homes.

I quickly realized that these really sweet, well-intentioned moms were missing the heart of home education. They were mistakenly equating education with completed workbooks.  What was missing was the opportunity for rich learning experiences and the relationship-building interaction homeschooling can provide.

Thinking about my own family’s homeschool journey and what has helped us to thrive, I recognized the stark contrast between a home where completing curriculum is the goal versus a home where learning is a hands-on, multi-sensory, interactive adventure.

Yes, our children still need to complete their math problems and reading assignments, but there is a way to create an atmosphere where the joy of discovery and the thrill of deeper understanding are common in our homes.

You’ve undoubtedly heard the William Butler Yeats quote, “Education is not the filling of a bucket, but the lighting of a fire.” The goal of our home education experience should not be to cram a particular set of information into our children’s brains.  Rather, when we waken interest and kindle enthusiasm, our children can develop a great love of learning that will last a lifetime.

An amusingly descriptive quote by Arthur Prince goes like this,

“Education which is simply intellectual taxidermy – the scooping out of the mind
and the stuffing in of facts – that kind of education is worthless.  The human mind is not
a deep-freeze for storage; the human mind is a forge for production.”

A love of learning coupled with an understanding that a child is created by God, and that He has a plan for his or her life, will provide a solid foundation of inspiration and purpose in each child.  There are no limits to what one can become or achieve in this kind of environment.

We can avoid the trap of being consumed with “doing school” and instead focus on developing the love of learning in our children by incorporating hands-on learning in our daily home education enterprise.


We were created to experience the world around us through our senses.  Look for ways to incorporate the five senses ... touch, taste, smell, hearing, and sight ... whenever possible. 


It’s helpful to know your child’s learning style so that you can find curriculum and present information to them in the way that will be most easily received for them.  It’s also important to expose your child to all three styles of learning.  The more ways they encounter information, the more apt they are to learn it, and the more adept they will be at receiving instruction in various forms.

Do things that involve the student listening and also speaking.

Do things that involve the student seeing
as well as representing in visual form.
(drawing, painting, writing)

Do things that involve physical movement and touch.


If you have more than one child, look for opportunities to teach them together.  History, science, and literature are excellent subjects for teaching children of varying ages.

If you’re all learning about Ancient Egypt, for example, you can simply create more challenging, in-depth assignments for older children, while having younger children do activities that are appropriate for their age and ability. 

Teaching children together saves preparation time and makes learning even more fun because it is something you are sharing as a family!


In all my years of homeschooling, this was one of the most revolutionary ideas for me!  I had wrongly assumed that once my children learned to read, my reading aloud days were over. Thankfully, this notion was challenged early on by a friend of mine! 

Even up into their teen years, I have read aloud to my girls.   We have shared quite an adventure together reading biographies and other great books this way.

Select some quiet activities to have available for your children to do while you read to them. My girls often enjoyed working on a project while I read (painting, drawing, knitting, making collages, etc.). 

Reading aloud works well with children of varying ages. It helps expose younger children to new vocabulary and they have opportunity to enjoy literature that may be beyond their current reading levels. I regularly read books aloud that went with whatever we were studying for history.


Learning with lots of hands-on activities is a bit like making pickles!  If you take a cucumber and dip it quickly into a bowl of vinegar, the cucumber might have a little vinegar on its skin, but it will remain unchanged. But when you soak a cucumber in a salty brine and spices, heating it and cooling it, and letting it sit for a period of time in that mixture, the cucumber becomes infused with those flavors, changing it into a new creation—the pickle.

Incorporating hands-on learning activities helps us infuse our children with the love of learning and a broader understanding of a topic as they are exposed to information in more and varied ways. 

The act of reading a chapter and answering questions, for most children, is like being dipped in the information quickly and then removed. Minimal saturation occurs.   If they read it, talk about it, re-tell it, paint about it, play a game about it, taste it, hear music associated with it, and get to show someone else how it works, that knowledge becomes part of their being—useable and alive. 

For the majority of human beings, the following statement holds true:
I hear and I forget.
I see and I remember.
I do and I understand. 

If I watch someone build a birdhouse, I’ve witnessed a demonstration.  If I get the chance to build one myself, I’ve gained understanding and skill.

We make our job as homeschooling parents easier when we teach in a way that sparks interest and enthusiasm in our children. 

You don’t need to invest a lot of time or money to make your homeschool experience a rich adventure. Look for little ways along the way to make learning a joy for your child. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes!

Nancy Manos has been serving on the board of directors of Arizona Families for Home Education (AFHE) with her husband, James, since 2004. Nancy and James have two daughters whom they homeschooled through high school. The Manos’ home education journey was a rich, rewarding, sometimes challenging experience, and Nancy is passionate about encouraging others in the homeschool adventure.


It Hangs on My Office Wall by Rick Boyer

It hangs on my office wall, a simple wooden plaque not as long or as wide as the lid of a shoe box.  My desk is parked against that wall and the plaque is roughly centered, right at eye level.  I see it every time I look up.  It says, “Dad, I think the sun rises and sets with you.” 

On the back of the plaque I wrote sometime or other in ballpoint, “From Rickey, Tim, Nathan and Joshua, 9-13-79.”  I didn’t want to forget the occasion.  The plaque was a gift for my twenty-seventh birthday.  The boys’ mom bought it, of course.  At that time firstborn Rickey was not yet five years old, baby Josh only a month.  It was a simple, inexpensive gift, the kind we were used to in those early days when, like most young families we were always tight for money.  But though I’ve since received many more elaborate and more costly presents, most of them are long forgotten.  It’s a humble rectangle of wood that hangs above my desk where I’ll be able to see it often.  And remember.

Oh, I remember well the hardness of that season in our family’s life.  Marilyn and I had married young and started our family off in a rush.  I’m glad those little boys, the first four of our fourteen children, were too young to feel the stress we did, as the family needs grew faster than the family income.  But now it’s easy to put the pressures of those days out of my mind and look back on the sunshine.

For a young parent, those were glory days when all of our children were too young to have yet discovered that their parents were neither omniscient nor omnipotent.  They seldom questioned our judgment then; our word was law and they never seemed to wonder whether we really had their best interests at heart.  They trusted us, secure in our love for them and each other.  It never occurred to them that anything might ever happen that Mom and Dad couldn’t handle.  Their world was a small one but a nice one.

My boys were my buddies.  They were excited to see me turn into the gravel driveway after work.  Daddy’s home!  Time to wrestle, run, shout, then supper and reading together.  Nothing very earth shaking, but I’d give about anything to relive just one of those days.  Sometimes in the winter it would snow and I’d pile the boys on a sled pulled by Bonnie and Chris, the family dogs.  Up and down the street we’d go, red-cheeked and laughing, turning back now and then to pick up a passenger who’d spilled off in the snow.  Dad would run alongside, encouraging the dogs and drinking in the joy on my little boys’ faces. That’s back when I could keep up, of course.

In the spring we’d plant the garden with plenty of little helpers underfoot.  In the summer we’d climb among the branches and enjoy two different kinds of cherries from the huge old trees whose shade was our only air conditioning.  Autumn was a time for collecting leaves together and sampling the home-grown vegetables Mommy had taught herself to can—with assistance from her little helpers, of course.  Time seemed to go by slowly, yet somehow days turned into months and then years.  And now my little boys are men.

That is, except for Joshua.  Josh, you recall, was our baby on that twenty-seventh birthday of mine.  He grew into the cutest, round-cheeked giggling toddler you ever saw.  Then into a cheerful clown of a young boy, then a tall, lanky teenager.  Then at age seventeen he got leukemia and died.  I don’t need to tell you that a piece of his mom and dad died with him. 

But even that tragedy is nearly a decade in the past now.  Our hearts have healed, as much as healing is possible, and we’re happy for Josh in his new and better home.  We’re still filthy rich, with his thirteen siblings to love and be loved by us, and the addition of three wonderful daughters-in-law, one fine son-in-law and four beautiful grandchildren.  Eat your heart out, Bill Gates.

Rickey is now thirty-one.  He is an up-and-coming Christian political activist serving in his first elective office on our county’s board of supervisors.  He and his wife, Christina, are the parents of an adorable baby boy named Luke.  Tim, age twenty-nine, works with me in the family business.  He’s good at just about anything hands can do, including being an accomplished pianist.  He and Kari presented us with our first grandchild, lively Cassidy and will soon be welcoming their second heavenly gift, Adam Timothy.  Nathan married Tina, daughter of missionary friends of ours.  He has had his own business since age twenty and has just in recent weeks become a father, as little Ann Pearl made her grand entrance.

For my boys, the sun no longer rises and sets with Dad.  They are all Dad now to some very special people and their priorities have changed, as they must and should.  I’m happy for them.  Comparing their lives with my own at their age, I’m thankful to see that they are better men.  They are wiser men, which means that they are living without much of the stress I knew when they were little and I was still struggling to learn how to live.  They have all the joys that I had at twenty-seven, and much less stumbling, fumbling and falling. 

None of my grandchildren are yet two years old, none are talking, at least in language that grownups understand.  Most of the time, they display a distinct preference for Mommy over Daddy.  But to everything there is a season, and before long Daddy will loom large in their little eyes.  With my own twenty-seventh year in mind, I’m already vicariously enjoying what lies ahead for my sons.  Whether the little people ever put it in so many words or not, they’ll feel it and they’ll let their daddies know in a thousand ways.  “Dad, I think the sun rises and sets with you.”

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Why Join HSLDA?

Protects your right to homeschool and defends your family. A lawyer is on call 24/7.
Provides fast help by phone or email: Get direct answers to your specific questions about home education. Veteran homeschooling parents are available to answer your questions and help you find resources for teaching your children:

Early years (PreK–8th grade)
High school (including preparing for college or career paths)
Struggling learners (special needs/gifted and talented)

Preserves homeschool freedom for all families by promoting homeschooling nationwide, as well as by working with state homeschooling groups to pass homeschool-friendly legislation and stop unfavorable bills at the state and federal levels. 

Partners you with the cause: Although homeschooling is recognized in every state, HSLDA receives phone calls each day from families whose right to homeschool is being challenged or discriminated against by school officials, social workers, employers, colleges, armed services recruitment officers, and government bureaucrats. The customizable nature of homeschooling defies the educational elite’s ideal of mandatory, uniform indoctrination—making parental choice in education a target for elimination.  By joining HSLDA, you are supporting families who are fighting for their right to homeschool today and standing together to preserve homeschooling freedom for tomorrow.  

You can receive ENOCH's Discount Number to save on your HSLDA Membership by contacting ENOCH via the Office Email, office@enochnj.org.
For more information visit the HSLDA website:  www.hslda.org 



Research Methods and Writing Course

A high school-level course (for roughly ages 15 to adult) Winter/Spring 2012

Dr. Brian Ray of the National Home Education Research Institute (NHERI) is the instructor.

Dr. Ray is offering this Research Methods and Writing course to help you:
Students participate and learn from Dr. Ray via his live weekly lectures (about 10 weeks, one hour each), review of student questions or comments via text chat during the lectures, and answers to questions posted by students on an Internet forum so all students can see and learn from Dr. Ray’s answers. Lecture recordings will also be available to students 24/7 online.

Dr. Ray has taught students at all levels – elementary school, junior high school, high school, and undergraduate and graduate university – over the course of many years. He has taught private school, public school, and homeschool students. Dr. Ray is an energetic and engaging teacher and has received much praise for his teaching and speaking abilities. He serves as the president of the National Home Education Research Institute and is internationally known for his homeschool research, service as an expert witness in court cases and before legislatures, and speaking at educational conferences, including those for home educators. Dr. Ray and his wife have eight children and live on a small farm in western Oregon.

Students will receive careful and detailed review, critique, feedback, and grading from Dr. Ray on three written assignments. Students will also take one exam to show their understanding of basic research methods terms and concepts. Students who successfully complete the course receive a certificate of completion for this one-semester, research methods and writing, high school course.

Students who complete this course and are interested in completing the research project they design might be able to continue in a mentored project with Dr. Ray to execute their study.

Tuition is $795 and is due in full upon registration. Class size is limited – so students receive plenty of personal attention and feedback from Dr. Ray – so first come, first served. Late enrollments may be accepted on a case-by-case basis.

The registration form explains details such as the beginning lecture date, possible payment arrangements, the tuition refund policy, forms of payment, the textbook to be used and its cost, and more.
Please call Dr. Ray’s office at 503-364-1490 or email Abbie at mail@nheri.org for a registration form or if you have any questions. Remember, space is limited.

Home-Based Educational Services: Montessori Elementary Homeschooling and Tutoring

My name is Suzanne Marie Amato. Thoughout my years of  teaching in both public and private schools, I realized the need for better alternatives to institutional education.   After spending three summers in intensive Montessori Elementary training, and sitting through many educational psychology classes, I realized something was missing in the translation from teacher-training to actual implementation in the classroom.
A passionate educator, I soon realized I could not promote change from within, so I decided to create my own program.  Having spent many years with children of all ages, I realized what homeschoolers already know.  You must, first and foremost, know the child.  Their strengths, interests, and individual potential are the foundation for the intellectual, emotional and physical health of our children. The bond that parents have with their children is their greatest asset.
After establishing a solid relationship based on mutual respect with the student, the foundation for learning is set.  I can then share my love of learning and critical thinking. 
I specialize in:
If you are seeking a curriculum and don’t know where to begin, I have a full Montessori elementary curriculum including lessons and materials for: K-8 Math, Geometry, History, Geography, Science, and K-12 Language Arts: including vocabulary, spelling, grammar, literary analysis and writing.
Through many years of research and training, I have also created my own Literature and Writing program based on higher-level, meta-cognitive comprehension strategies and the 6 Traits of Writing. Also available are Language SAT prep, preparation for state testing and high school entrance exams. Affordable private and group lessons are available in Bergen County thoughout the year. Email Lv2reed@aol.com or call 201-439-0601 for more information.

Monmouth University High School Homeschool Day

Tuesday, January 24, 2012
10 a.m. – 1 p.m.
On Monmouth’s campus in West Long Branch, NJ
Find out the answers to these questions and many more as Monmouth University hosts this complimentary event for high school homeschoolers! Hear from Admission and Financial Aid representatives, Tour the campus, enjoy lunch in the dining hall, and get your questions answered.

RSVP by January 17th to Danielle Colbert at dcolbert@monmouth.edu or 732-263-5872



Come join us for 2 hours of fun, physical activity.  Every third Friday there is roller skating for the home school community.  The rink is open only for us.   The games are turned off, the music is family friendly.  Mom's get to socialize while kids skate with their friends.  Come meet home schoolers from every area........open to all.
Where: Cherry Hill Skate Center 664 Deer Road Cherry Hill
What: Private party 2 hours of skating with family friendly music
Who: Any home schooler please invite all put down your home school lists
When: 3rd Fridays (NOT December) from September-April 1-3PM
Cost:  $3 per skater (non skaters do not pay) Max $12 per family (cash please!)
skate rental available for $3 from rink (last year's price) either quads or inline

You may bring your own skates

Please no outside refreshments as the snack bar is open.  Consume your food before coming in.

Dates for 2011-2012 School year
September 16
October  21
November  18
January  20
February  17
March  16
April  20



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February 2012: Wednesday, January 25th
March 2012:  Friday, February 24th
April 2012:  Sunday, March 25th

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